①So this message, that good, close relationships are good for our health and well-being, this is wisdom that's as old as the hills. ②Why is this so hard to get and so easy to ignore? ③Well, we’re human.④What we’d really like is a quick fix，something we can get that’ll make our lives good and keep them that way. ⑤Relationships are messy and they’re complicated and the hard work of tending to family and friends, it’s not sexy or glamorous. ⑥It’s also life-long. It never ends. ①良好、亲密的人际关系有益于我们的健康和幸福，这是古老的人类智慧。②为什么这个道理这么难明白，又这么容易被忽视呢？③我们是人啊。④我们真正喜欢的是快速的解决方案——我们能信手拈来使生活变得美好并一直美好下去的一种东西。⑤人际关系错综复杂，照顾家人和朋友是一项艰辛的工作，既不性感也没有吸引力。⑥它还贯穿我们的一生，无休无止。 ①Just like the millennials in that recent survey, many of our men when they were starting out as young adults really believed that fame and wealth and high achievement were what they needed to go after to have a good life. ②But over and over, over these 75 years, our study has shown that the people who fared the best were the people who leaned in to relationships, with family, with friends, with community. ①和最近那次调查中的千禧一代一样，我们的很多受试者在起初还是年轻人时，也确实认为要拥有幸福的生活，他们需要追求名望、财富和卓越的成就。②但在这75年中，我们的研究一次次表明，过得最好的是那些用心耕耘自己与家人、朋友和社区关系的人。 ①I’d like to close with a quote from Mark Twain.②More than a century ago, he was looking back on his life, and he wrote this: “There isn’t time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heart-burnings, callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant, so to speak, for that.” ①我想引用马克·吐温的一段话来收尾。②一百多年前，他回首一生，写下了这样一段话：“生命如此短暂，我们没有时间去争吵、道歉、嫉恨、计较。我们只有时间去爱，即便如此，这样的时间也是稍纵即逝。” 本文来源：https://www.wddqw.com/doc/a9f96bd24793daef5ef7ba0d4a7302768e996f25.html